Thought’s About Modern Children Playing with Dolls

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Photo Credit – A typical reborn doll. Note the added cloth body on the limbs, and the “rear plate” to make it more realistic.

These days dolls look so real, just like they are human, as the reborn doll, a manufactured skin doll that has been transformed to resemble a human infant with as much realism as possible

Dolls, never go out of date, they just become collectibles and are carried on through the generations, memories.

But they should be part of a child’s life, it leads to the wonderful and lovely job of caring for babies, toddlers, and children.

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My early memories of dolls as a child was a little kewpie doll I had, it was a treasure I could hold in one hand, and I would carry it around everywhere, over the years that little doll has got lost.

While searching for some gift ideas for girls I came across kewpie dolls, it rekindles my mind of that little doll, and they are still around, Check out Amazon.

There are some very nice dolls for girls and boys, these day’s men are bringing up children (house husbands) as well as a woman, but I don’t know that they played with dolls as a child, I could be wrong.

Here’s a blog about children playing with dolls, and Yes even boys, interesting read. http://mamaot.com/why-kids-should-play-with-baby-dolls-yes-even-boys/

It has been said children prefer to play with touch screens more than traditional toys, like dolls, action toys, and board games, even the barbie doll has been forgotten.

The earliest American black dolls with realistic African facial features were made in the 1960s.

This photo is of Various antique to modern black dolls, which I found interesting, they weren’t around when I was a child, and I did think about it, as I had many dark skinned friends at school (Maoris).

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Photo Credit – The earliest American black dolls with realistic African facial features were made in the 1960s.

Now with the reborn dolls, it is a chance to get your child playing with them.

Do your children lay with dolls?

What are you thought’s about boys playing with dolls?

Happy Families – Part Two

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Happy Families – Part Two

Ideas for a Healthy Happy Teenager

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We tend not to want to expose ourselves to anything that might take away what we have created and we actually feel most things as a threat in the first years of our child’s adolescent.

Thinking that when our child leaves the house that something bad is going to happen, so we need to control them, that is wrong, we have to let go of that thought for a healthy happy teenager, we must trust them, they know when they are doing wrong and in most cases, it is the peer pressure that will lead then astray.

Try setting reasonable boundaries for your teenage children, if they are broken, then resist getting angry and instead explain the consequences of their actions, which is different in every home, you set the rules, explain by breaking the rules, how it is going to affects them, it is better than getting angry.

Find a way to say, “yes” most of the time instead of “no”. most out of control teens are signaling to their parents that they are desperate to be older, more responsible and independent, so saying “no” isn’t going to work.

Sort out a way to get some of the things they want – like a part time job for them, so they have their own money, can be a compromise while allowing them to experience some independence.

Other things that cause many problems in a family home

Drugs and drinking are some of the hardest things for parents to cope with, also the gay teenagers.

Just stop and think, what were you doing at 17 or 18 years of age?

You will note then that your child is not such a rebel as you think.

The challenge is to find the right balance between healthy risks and harmful ones.

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Some helpful tips on how to talk to your teenager

Remember to show them that you are always there for them, and yes teenagers love hugs from their parents, even though you may think they are too old for that, no one is never too old for a hug.

The first rule is to listen and not interrupt – no matter how horrified you may be, at the things you are hearing.

Let your teenager know they can trust you.Anything that is said between the two of you, will not be repeated unless you have their permission.

As they gain confidence with you, they will be more likely to come to you when things are troubling them and you will be in a position to help them.

Do not judge, instead of responding to your child (that is sharing the fact that they have tried smoking marijuana), by butting in and giving them a full on the anti-drug lecture, let them finish and then talk about the subject, in general terms such as:

How did you feel when that happened?

What did you think about what you did?

Let them explore the right and wrong of the situation.

Leave the anti-drug message for some other time, they know that message already.

Just be there to support them and guide them gently the right way, a hug would not go astray in this situation.

Try not criticize, teens are very sensitive to perceived insults, especially about their friends or lifestyle.

Don’t get at them about wasting time playing internet games, allow them to have their own opinions.

This is what growing up is all about, experimenting with ideas and working out what works best for them.

Their opinions might not always be in sync with yours but if you, encourage them to be who they want to be, they will grow into balanced adults.

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Raising rude teenagers.

The first step is simple: realizing that inside every teen resides two very different people the regressed child and the emergent adult.

One of the main things, that I don’t understand is the rude attitude.

I find very hard to cope with, (in my day’s) if we answered our parents back or yelled at them, we all knew what would happen, so we never ventured there, I don’t think it did me any harm.

The sex issue, we can usually cope with that one, most schools are teaching that subject these days

Substance use, I am lost, I feel it is destroying young bodies and the family.

Happy days!

What are your thought’s about this post, I love comments?

Happy Families – Part one

Teenagers

Happy Families – Part one

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Bringing up a family can be a frightening business, and teenagers (I think) is the hardest part of raising a family.

Questions, questions and more questions, never a day goes by without some thought has to be put into problems created by most teens

Why aren’t they home?

Who are they with?

Why haven’t they called, so many why’s.

A teenager world is a dynamic, unpredictable place. The world around them is forever changing, so many rules, so growing up for teenagers and with their mood swings is a real challenge for them and the parents.

That’s why stringent parenting “techniques” just don’t always bring about the results we would like.

Every teenager keeps secrets, and if you’re like most parents, you worry about what your kids are not telling you–especially when they prefer text messages and social networking sites to face-to-face conversation.

I brought up five children, and really times haven’t changed since the 1970-80’s, just that a whole lot more is happening in the world now, even us adults have a job keeping up with it, no wonder teenagers are not coping very well.

The good news is that they are not teenagers forever and they do grow up to be a credit to your family.

Happy Parenting.

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Bringing up Teen Children Which do you think is easier?

  • Raising a Teen Boy
  • Raising a Teen Girl
  • Neither – they are just a hard as one or the other to raise.

Please Comment, love to have your thoughts about happy teenagers, it could be helpful for everyone involved with young adults.

NanoPoblano 2016 – Day Sixteen – Extended Families playing together

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NanoPoblano  2016 – Day Sixteen – Extended Families playing together

#NaBloPoMo – Day Sixteen  of – Cheer Peppers NanoPoblano 30 Day Challenge

Families doing things together.

One of the best ways to keep a family together is to do something different occasionally to what you do every weekend.

So if you spend most weekends working around the home as a lot of working parents do think of something to do to make it a memorable day together as a complete family unit.

Ideas that don’t need to cost a fortune.

  • If you have a young family take them down to the park and feed the ducks, have a picnic lunch and spend time playing with them on the swings etc.
  • Have a barbeque and let the older ones do the cooking, train them to do it safely.
  • Pack a picnic lunch and off to the beach, beach coming or fishing.
  • Have a bike ride together, stop and have an ice-cream on the way, if you are around a shop.
  • Family day at the swimming pool.
  • Go shopping and celebrate by doing something you normally would not do – be proud that you are a parent.
  • Children love it even if you just take a bat and ball, or cricket set and go to the park, and have a game, remember the picnic.
  • Include half brothers and sisters in family outings – where both sides of the parents work together to have a pleasant day out, (past problems must be forgotten for the peace of the children, in most cases, it wasn’t their fault why there was a broken home.)

I know we used to do it and you would be surprised how many other families would join in on the afternoon fun (for example playing a game of baseball, cricket, football), and sometimes we would have a barbeque together at the park with the other family making it a great days outing.

If you have elderly parents remember to include them in some of your weekend outings, it is a way to thank them for being your parents, because without them you wouldn’t have been born and there would be no family.

It is also good for your morale, you will feel much happier at work during the week, the work that didn’t get done over the weekend can wait until you get back to it, but I bet it gets done quicker after a day away from home. Enjoy your family while you can, your children grow very quickly, and your parents won’t be around forever.

Fifty years ago doing things like that was done all the time, but these days it is very seldom seen.

It gives your parents something to remember, at the end of a closing day it will bring back pleasant memories for months to come, memories are precious to young and old alike.

Precious Memories

The years go by so fast, give time to taking some photos that your children will remember, those day’s spend as a family unit together.

Use a camera and get some printed, not a cell phone, as I find most photos taken by a cellphone never ever get seen again, or only seen by the person taking them.

In the years to come your children will treasure them as they will bring back memories, that your children will talk about in years to come of those days spent together as a family.

Happy days with everyone, with plenty of laughter and fun, good for every bodies health.

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ANZAC Day – 25 APRIL 2016

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Photo Credit Each year on ANZAC Day in Te Awamutu, New Zealand the graves of War Veterans are decorated.

In Remembrance Of those Special Soldiers – Never to be Forgotten.

25 April is ANZAC DAY where we remember all who fell and fought saving our future.

Anzac Day is a national day of remembrance in Australia and New Zealand and is commemorated by both countries on 25 April every year to honor members of the Australian and New Zealand Army Corps (ANZAC) who fought at Gallipoli in Turkey during World War I.

It now more broadly commemorates all those who died and served in military operations for their countries.

I had uncles that never return from the war, in fact, it was the end of the Corbishley line in New Zealand as Charles was the only son, killed in action.

My Father-in-law fought in World War One, he was one of the lucky soldiers to return, there are many stories which we will never forget, that he shared with us.

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George Arnold Hagley, never to be forgotten.

HERE’S TO YOU DAD!

In Memory of George Arnold Hagley

BODY ON EMBARKATION New Zealand Rifle Brigade

EMBARKATION UNIT 3rd Battalion, B Company

EMBARKATION DATE 5 February 1916

PLACE OF EMBARKATION Wellington, New Zealand

SPIRIT OF ANZAC

They clad us in the colors of the forest and armed us with the weapons made for war.

Then taught to us the ancient trade of killing, and lead us to the sound of battles roar.

So give us comfort as we lay down bleeding, and pray upon our cold and stiffened dead.

But mark our place that we might be accounted, this foreign soil becomes our graven bed.

Now children place upon this stone a garland and learn of us each Anzac Day at dawn.

We are New Zealand’s dead from distant conflict, our sacrifice remembered ever more.

Elderly Emotional Abuse

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Abuse of elders can take many forms. There are a number of different types of abuse that happen to older people.

But the one that has brought me the most stress, as an older person, is family abuse, to us as an aging couple in our seventies.

Why is it that your family feel, that it’s time to be put into a rest home even if your are still managing your own beef farm, cooking all meals and running a home, plus looking after a big Park Like Garden.  

I can understand family advising us, if the situation calls for it, but not this, (do this do that), and when they don’t get their own way, they throw back at you, all the things that we did wrong in bringing them up, words coming out of their mouth that you never thought you would ever hear from them, this is the shocking bit, you never knew they felt this way, but now I know, it brings tears to my eyes every time I think about it.

Having not spent Christmas with them, the greatest time in any child’s life (my grandchildren), memories for them to remember in years to come.

Yes, my husband and I have a broken heart, elderly emotional abuse from a family member can be very hurtful, we are of sound mind and health so there was no need to cause us such discomfort, this person broke up the whole family, and I thought we had a loving family that cared about each other, it rips your heart apart.

Is that what happens to elderly parents?

May God bless their soul, as it’s a very hard thing to live with.

The best advice I can give anyone receiving elderly emotional abuse is don’t bother arguing back about it all, just walk away and try to continue on as if nothing happened.

This last time I didn’t, I did argue back, memories of this last disagreement is eating me away, I cannot sleep, I’m not at peace with myself.

We are semi-retiring slowly, as we have brought a house in town, will be living in it before winter 2016, still have the farm, will return and feed animals etc.

Thanks for reading, if you the reader are experiencing problems of elderly abuse please comment, I will reply, I think it helps everyone in these situations to talk about it.

Pacifier – the dummy

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Everyone seems to have an opinion on whether a dummy is a good thing for your child or not.

It will deform their teeth, bacteria it carries, plus many more things against the dummy for a pacifier.

The reality is that a dummy is very soothing for a baby and when you are a parent that word “soothing”

translates to “sleep”.

Here is a little information, which may help you to decide whether to use a dummy or not.

Current experts advice is not to use them before you have breast feeding well established.

Sucking is a natural activity for baby and is very calming for baby. if the baby is comforted by a dummy and it is not being used to delay a feed, or a cuddle and some attention, then it is fine.

If the baby is comforted by a dummy and it is not being used to delay a feed, or a cuddle and some attention, then it is fine.

A baby likes to suck for comfort, a dummy is a better option than sucking their thumbs, because eventually you can get rid of the dummy, but so much harder to stop thumb sucking.

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( I had a grandson that was still sucking his thumb when he went to school, other children soon put a stop to it by teasing, which was not nice for him, he still went on sucking his thumb at night when he went to bed for many years, also his teeth are perfect).

There is a theory that using a dummy can reduce the incidence of cot death, but still needs more research before it is definitive.

It has been said that using a pacifier delays speech development by preventing babies from practicing their speaking skills, but there appears to be no strong evidence of this.

Keep the dummy clean and sterilize it regularly. watch for rips or tears which may harbor bacteria.

Attach it to baby to prevent it falling to the ground, but not tied around the neck as it could lead to an accident like strangulation.

Try to aim to only using it for the first 12 months of the babies life.

If your child is reaching school age and still using a dummy you need to get serious.

There are many ways of weaning them off the dummy, but whatever way you employ, constantly reinforce your child about being grown up and not needing it any longer.

Children like being praised so praise them often as they are weaned from the dummy and it will be successful, do not ever ridicule a child or use punishment or humiliation to influence them into giving up their dummy, if you make it a problem, it won’t go away.

The key to any behavioral change is to do it without fuss, otherwise, you risk your child using the behavior to get a reaction.

Did your baby have a pacifier?

If so, please let us know what you learnt about babies having a dummy.

Best of Luck, I have been there and know it is not easy, with perseverance you will get there.