We tend not to want to expose ourselves to anything that might take away what we have created and we actually feel most things as a threat in the first years of our child’s adolescent.
Thinking that when our child leaves the house that something bad is going to happen, so we need to control them, that is wrong, we have to let go of that thought for a healthy happy teenager, we must trust them, they know when they are doing wrong and in most cases, it is the peer pressure that will lead then astray.
Try setting reasonable boundaries for your teenage children, if they are broken, then resist getting angry and instead explain the consequences of their actions, which is different in every home, you set the rules, explain by breaking the rules, how it is going to affects them, it is better than getting angry.
Find a way to say, “yes” most of the time instead of “no”. most out of control teens are signaling to their parents that they are desperate to be older, more responsible and independent, so saying “no” isn’t going to work.
Sort out a way to get some of the things they want – like a part time job for them, so they have their own money, can be a compromise while allowing them to experience some independence.
Other things that cause many problems in a family home
Drugs and drinking are some of the hardest things for parents to cope with, also the gay teenagers.
Just stop and think, what were you doing at 17 or 18 years of age?
You will note then that your child is not such a rebel as you think.
The challenge is to find the right balance between healthy risks and harmful ones.
Remember to show them that you are always there for them, and yes teenagers love hugs from their parents, even though you may think they are too old for that, no one is never too old for a hug.
The first rule is to listen and not interrupt – no matter how horrified you may be, at the things you are hearing.
Let your teenager know they can trust you.Anything that is said between the two of you, will not be repeated unless you have their permission.
As they gain confidence with you, they will be more likely to come to you when things are troubling them and you will be in a position to help them.
Do not judge, instead of responding to your child (that is sharing the fact that they have tried smoking marijuana), by butting in and giving them a full on the anti-drug lecture, let them finish and then talk about the subject, in general terms such as:
How did you feel when that happened?
What did you think about what you did?
Let them explore the right and wrong of the situation.
Leave the anti-drug message for some other time, they know that message already.
Just be there to support them and guide them gently the right way, a hug would not go astray in this situation.
Try not criticize, teens are very sensitive to perceived insults, especially about their friends or lifestyle.
Don’t get at them about wasting time playing internet games, allow them to have their own opinions.
This is what growing up is all about, experimenting with ideas and working out what works best for them.
Their opinions might not always be in sync with yours but if you, encourage them to be who they want to be, they will grow into balanced adults.
Raising rude teenagers.
The first step is simple: realizing that inside every teen resides two very different people the regressed child and the emergent adult.
One of the main things, that I don’t understand is the rude attitude.
I find very hard to cope with, (in my day’s) if we answered our parents back or yelled at them, we all knew what would happen, so we never ventured there, I don’t think it did me any harm.
The sex issue, we can usually cope with that one, most schools are teaching that subject these days
Substance use, I am lost, I feel it is destroying young bodies and the family.
What are your thought’s about this post, I love comments?
Bringing up a family can be a frightening business, and teenagers (I think) is the hardest part of raising a family.
Questions, questions and more questions, never a day goes by without some thought has to be put into problems created by most teens
Why aren’t they home?
Who are they with?
Why haven’t they called, so many why’s.
A teenager world is a dynamic, unpredictable place. The world around them is forever changing, so many rules, so growing up for teenagers and with their mood swings is a real challenge for them and the parents.
That’s why stringent parenting “techniques” just don’t always bring about the results we would like.
Every teenager keeps secrets, and if you’re like most parents, you worry about what your kids are not telling you–especially when they prefer text messages and social networking sites to face-to-face conversation.
I brought up five children, and really times haven’t changed since the 1970-80’s, just that a whole lot more is happening in the world now, even us adults have a job keeping up with it, no wonder teenagers are not coping very well.
The good news is that they are not teenagers forever and they do grow up to be a credit to your family.
This challenge was started by blogger Sarah Brentyn over at Lemon Shark.
I was not nominated but that does not matter, I feel it is the time now for me to do this post, as I’m having problems to continue daily to write a new post, ( I now have 872followers) my apologies to Spearfruit.
Here are the rules for this challenge –
No cheating. (It must be your first post. Not your second post, not one you love…first post only.)
Link back to the person who tagged you
Other rules –
Cut and paste your old post into a new post or reblog your own bad self. (Either way is fine but NO editing.)
Put the hashtag #MyFirstPostRevisited in your title.
Tag…um…five (5) other bloggers to take up this challenge.
Notify your tags in the comment section of their blog (don’t just hope they notice a pingback somewhere in their spam).
Feel free to cut and paste the badge to use in your post.
I am so delighted to receive a tag from a very special friend, Erhynireh a blogger I meet through WordPress at the beginning of 2016.
We both have had our ups and downs but haven’t let the challenges in life get the better of us, we have just kept on doing what we enjoy doing, writing.
For the rules:
List down three things you are thankful for.
Nominate fellow bloggers to continue the TAG.
Use a cool logo to match up with your even cooler answers.
1. Most of all I’m thankful for my husband of fifty-seven years, when I have been down he’s always been there for me.
He is the best and only friend that’s stayed with me throughout of all the hurdles that faced me in life, that’s true love.
2. I’m thankful for all my writing friends which have followed me through my writing years on Squidoo, HubPages, and now on WordPress.
Blessings to you all.
3. I’m thankful for my family, and friends for all the blessings and kind thought’s I have had over the years that have kept me going, especially when I found out I had cancer, sad but it is not good for me, now two years later still going to the specialist, I have another MRI in August but I’m not very hopeful.
I have lived for seventy-six years, that a pretty good life. Now I count each day I wake up a blessing.
I’m cutting back on emails from WordPress and writing on my blog, as it’s getting very hard to concentrate because of the pressure in my head, but I will still be reading your posts on the WordPress Reader.
I would like to nominate everyone for this “Thankful for tab” because you all deserve it, but if any of you I haven’t nominated would like to accept it please do.
I am so glad you have chosen to visit my website and I hope you will continue to come back to read more! You will see that I do believe that a positive attitude can make a huge difference! I truly hope that my website will reassure others that they are not alone with their battles; my goal is to help others!