Abuse of elders can take many forms. There are a number of different types of abuse that happen to older people.
But the one that has brought me the most stress, as an older person, is family abuse, to us as an aging couple in our seventies.
Why is it that your family feel, that it’s time to be put into a rest home even if your are still managing your own beef farm, cooking all meals and running a home, plus looking after a big Park Like Garden.
I can understand family advising us, if the situation calls for it, but not this, (do this do that), and when they don’t get their own way, they throw back at you, all the things that we did wrong in bringing them up, words coming out of their mouth that you never thought you would ever hear from them, this is the shocking bit, you never knew they felt this way, but now I know, it brings tears to my eyes every time I think about it.
Having not spent Christmas with them, the greatest time in any child’s life (my grandchildren), memories for them to remember in years to come.
Yes, my husband and I have a broken heart, elderly emotional abuse from a family member can be very hurtful, we are of sound mind and health so there was no need to cause us such discomfort, this person broke up the whole family, and I thought we had a loving family that cared about each other, it rips your heart apart.
Is that what happens to elderly parents?
May God bless their soul, as it’s a very hard thing to live with.
The best advice I can give anyone receiving elderly emotional abuse is don’t bother arguing back about it all, just walk away and try to continue on as if nothing happened.
This last time I didn’t, I did argue back, memories of this last disagreement is eating me away, I cannot sleep, I’m not at peace with myself.
We are semi-retiring slowly, as we have brought a house in town, will be living in it before winter 2016, still have the farm, will return and feed animals etc.
Thanks for reading, if you the reader are experiencing problems of elderly abuse please comment, I will reply, I think it helps everyone in these situations to talk about it.